For Couples

Our service for couples

When love has turned to war, the integrative way is to explore two key questions. What core qualities drew the two of you together when you were still in love with each other? And what dysfunctional patterns now threaten to tear you apart? During conflicts and freeze-outs you lose the loving connection and trigger unsafe feelings in each other. Some of these feelings are visible on the surface like irritation, annoyance, anger or even rage. When this occurs, therapy with a psychologist, who understands both parties and who not choose a side, could be beneficial.

Please note: Couples therapy appears to be effective for 69% of couples in treatment. This means that for 31% of the couples the therapy isn’t beneficial. (Christensen A, Atkins DC, Yi J, Baucom DH, & George WH. (2006).

The focus of the therapy.

Couples therapy is a type of psychotherapy. Couples therapy will usually begin with some standard interview questions regarding the history of the relationship.

The therapy will focus on the following general elements:  

1. A focus on a specific problem (i.e. sexual difficulties, Internet addiction, jealousy)

2. Active participation on the part of the therapist in treating the relationship itself, rather than each individual separately.

3. Solution-focused, change-oriented interventions early on in treatment.

4. A clear establishment of treatment objectives.

The targets are:

1. Change the view of the relationship.

2. Modify dysfunctional behavior.

3. Decrease emotional avoidance.

4. Improve communication

5. Promote strengths